I am not sure if anyone has had that moment when their eyes come in contact with someone they did not want to see. You know what I mean, like the gal you yelled and honked at on your way to the doctor only to find out that she was one of the nurses at your Dr.'s office once you got there, and you look at each other at the same time!
Well, that is what I'm talking about here today. But let me start off with just a little background. First off, I am what you call extremely aware of everything and everyone around me(otherwise referred to as nosey) So, as I am driving or shopping or whatever, I am constantly looking around and surveying who and what is around me. Let me say it is extremely hard to sneak up on me by the way.
Anyway, so I am walking through a warehouse store purchasing some things I needed and feeling pretty good despite the worries that my job may be in jeopardy. As I turn to leave with my stuff I am surveying others around me and end up making that eye contact with someone I knew and most definitely did not want to see or be seen by. The problem was that she was looking right at me!
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Now unfortunately this is not just someone who I would rather not be around. This is a person who has absolutely done everything she could do to bad-mouth me and portray me and my family as let's say....second rate just to be nice. We have so gotten over all of her fakeness and back stabbing and it hardly bothers us at all anymore when we learn about new ways she has gone out of her way to put us down. It actually becomes quite comical how she actually blogs in obvious response to our public blog and acts like she is being general. It doesn't even bother us, it is just a sad fact of who she is and how she validates herself I guess.
There I go again, on a tangent. So the problem is I know she saw me! But I acted like I saw right through her and now wonder if it was too obvious or what. I know what I should have done and that was to smile real big and say hi with more enthusiasm than I felt. But alas, the moment is past and now I wish I had been prepared. The nice thing is, she does not read this blog so at least I can rant and vent about this unmolested!
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So my question for you stalkers today is, What would you have done? Should I have a reaction planned and stored just for such an occasion? and last but not least, Have you ever had a situation where you made eye contact and it was very uncomfortable?
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Have a great day stalkers!
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There was a "wonderful" lady in the town before now who was mad I said I would be PTA pres 2 months after moving to this town. I had no idea she thought she was going to be the next Pres. I didn't know her at all. She got all of my Board to stop coming to meetings, they went to the Principal to get what they wanted - until I talked to him. He looked more closely and told them to stop being children. He said I had the only say and to go to the meetings. They were really fun meetings after that. The 4 of us who were not invited to the "bash T" meetings just kind of rolled our eyes. 5 years later we moved. About a year after that we saw her in the Mall. My kids are not huge. Their body types are like the kind in magazines that people say no one looks like. This woman's daughter isn't. She tried to dress her in clothing she saw my youngest in when we were there. Anyway...........short story long........... I wasn't prepared to see her and she wasn't prepared to see me. I had my youngest with me. Mine is the type to doll up to get the mail. Both this lady and I kind of blew the other off. Our kids didn't, though. One is still small and tall while the other is still big. The other woman noticed Mik more than she noticed me. Our boys played sports together. And since her daughter is a year younger than Mik, she was able to stay away a bit better. If this woman is still worried about you, that kind of puts you in the power position. I hear this other woman still mentions me periodically. I don't feel the need to acknowledge someone I would rather not see because of meanness. I'm not a person who loves drama. Even if I sometimes step into it.
I pretty much only see people I don't want to run into...
I either do the big-smile thing, or the "I'm so busy and completely fulfilled, I don't even remember who you are!"
which works as long as, you know, I'm not related to them.
Have you ever confronted her to her face about her behavior? I think you either confront her or pretend she doesn't exist...but your decision should be based on what you and your family needs...not what makes her comfortable.
I once spotted someone I did not want to see and did not want to pretend to be nice to...so I did as you did and looked beyond them! Not entirely brave but not entirely cowardly either!
You certainly have me intrigued...
I need your Mother's address for the iPod :)
Okay, two things.
First off - Obvious schmobvious!!! Seriously! What a skank. No, you absolutely should not have made a point of being fake like she is. Don't stoop. She is no friend to you. 'Nuff said.
Second - You have a public blog? WTF? Can we come too? lol I'm just curious, actually, if we read your public blog not knowing that you are one in the same??
Have to say that I hardly see anyone when I'm out shopping so seeing right through her as if she wasn't there was probably the best thing. Why stoop so low as to even offer her a smile. She not with the hundreds of muscles in your face to crack that fake smile anyway! High five for you for ignoring her. WTG
Umm, yes! This has happened to me many many times to be honest with you. Not a great situation, but I think you handled it wonderfully. As for me, I freak out (inside) and run the other way :)
I would have sworn I commented on this. The comment gremlin got me.
Oooh, I know that type of person. Everytime I see someone like that, which happens a lot in a small town, I smile as big as possible and say hi. I think it drives them nuts and I love it. :)
I hate making eye contact with people in those kinds of situations. I just look away and pretend I never saw them. haha
This is a difficult one. I probably would have been the fake smiler & hello person. But sometimes it is hard to know until you are in the moment. But she didn't say hi to you either so I wouldn't worry about it.
Yes, I have recently run into some one I would rather not see ever again. Although I have moved pass all the hurt this person has caused our family. I don't want anything to do with this person or be near this person. Infact it is because of the this person that we left our church. We are moving as soon as our lease is up to get away from this person and family.The situation was a huge mess involving more people in our church. Since I live in Utah, most of the nieghbors all go to the same church with us. It got messy is an understatement.
I also look around like you decribed. Don't like people to sneak up on me.
Water of a duck's back, Blogstalker. Rise above. Ignore. You're a better person than that! Hey, BTW, I'm giving away an actual PRIZE for Sx3 today...come play along!
I would have done what you did and have. In hindsight, that is not who I am but I have learned that there are some people, no matter how nice or how kind you are, will still cause harm. For me, looking straight at, and then turning around and ignoring is much better than being fake. Plus I will not be enticed to say what I really feel.
Wow that is a situation. I would have given a half smile and run out of there.
I'm not confrontational..i ignore..if they say hi..i nod and smile.
I'm not a phoney..so no small talk
Think of it like dodging a bullet. Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction and never in a straight line.
I would have said "Well, helooo oh hater of everything me! What the heck do you think you're looking at?!" Just kidding, I would have done a half smile and then felt bad when she pretended I didn't exist.
Isn't it unfortunate that such people exist? I've had my share in my lifetime. For whatever it's worth, Blogstalker, be yourself! If that meant just ignoring her and you were comfortable with that, then fine. A little reflection is good for the soul. And make YOU the better person. I constantly remind myself, I have no control over anyone else's behavior; only mine. Good luck!
I so want to see her blog!!! She sounds horrible. I am terrible at confrontation, but very observant also. If I see someone I don't want to see, I will go the other direction or pretend that I didn't see them. I can't take the confrontation.
XOXOXO
Jen
Muah-ha-ha, see, THESE are my favorite type of situations. You take an awkward situation and make the other person feel extra awkward. See, it's like a fun game. You don't care what this person thinks, so you just play with the situation. Like, "Oh, hey! Really loved your blog where you complained about us, but you got this part wrong, and I find it so comical that you don't have the balls to confront me, but act like you are all high on your horse. Good stuff! I love when wussies don't want to be my friend, find them useless. Have a grrrreat day! Oh, and cheetoes in your cart, must be why your butt looks so large lately." (Insert pageant wave here.)
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